When Beth, one of my better researchers, said that men who were averse to commitment were drawn to her like bees to honey, I gave her a copy of the summary report of my research on “why men marry.” The report showed that the primary reason a man asks one woman to marry and not another is that each woman treats him differently.After looking it over for about fifteen minutes, Beth returned the report to my desk and told me I was a male chauvinist. I was fond of Beth and trying to help her, so after I recovered, I asked her what made her think that.He’s not a dating expert, nor an advice columnist, psychologist or relationship therapist.His expertise lies in the field of market research and he applies his scientific skills to educate women with all they need to know about men.First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.Last week I wanted to give some hard-hitting advice.So I wrote a post on harsh dating truths that men need to hear.
Or it’s been months—he’s even uttered the word “girlfriend”—and out of nowhere he says he’s not ready for a relationship.
Those who use phrases similar to “hoping to be friends first” are usually looking for fun rather than commitment, says Laurie Davis, founder and CEO of e Flirt Expert, and author of You can also weed out the casual sex seekers by looking at the context around your planned date: Is he willing to set up a date for a week or so later?
Meet for coffee or in a place where you can hear each other talk?
You’re left wondering what went wrong and analyzing (and reanalyzing and reanalyzing) things with your friends. While we’ll never be able to fully understand guys (and we probably wouldn’t want to), you can learn from these moments.
We found 10 women in your situation and asked experts to give their insights on what happened so you can dodge future dating disasters.