it can make a difference - one way or the other - if the kids have a good relationship with their own father or if he's out of the picture.There will certainly be issues and they're going to be important ones down the road.Liking her kids isn't the same as raising her kids. Be ready for rapid-fire spontaneity or an ironclad calendar. There is nothing more beautiful than a joyful child.You might have some really great ideas about how you think she could do things, and you might have some strong ideas about how children should behave. You're at the mercy of custody agreements, parent-teacher conferences, skinned knees, stuffy noses, and — buy her wine for this one — lice. Throw everything you know about Sunday Funday out the window. I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.
Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.
However, when you date someone younger, everyone has a damn opinion, mostly about what a bad idea your decision to engage in a consensual adult relationship is.
You can date someone the exact same age as you are, marry them, have children with them and then wind up getting a divorce because after years and years together you’ve finally allowed yourself to realize you want different things.
As far as the "you're not my daddy", just accept that you're going to hear that and know how you'll handle it.
Not all men are cut out to be step-fathers and if you aren't then get out while you can.