A reader wonders how to define a relationship with a guy she met on Tinder. We stay in touch throughout the day, seeing each other four to five times a night – a week and have been getting to know each other on a deeper level.This is part 1 of myself and Robert Dunn on his Orion Group Podcast, episode 36 (link to full episode opens in new window here). Find Robert at Purpose Of and subscribe to his podcast on i Tunes here. I’ve read that it’s better to avoid having the “define the relationship” conversation and just let it happen naturally, which is how this seems to be going, except for last night.But when it comes to guys, what I’ve seen in my experience is my own friends, just questions that we’ve gotten on here, you really have to have that “define the relationship” conversation pretty much as soon as you guys are starting to hang out consistently.I’m not saying you have to define it then and there but you better be on the same page because a lot of guys will continue to do what they’re doing with you as long as you allow us to a lot of the times.Making the Transition Knowing if You’re Ready Determining if Your Relationship is Ready Community Q&A There can come a time in your relationship where you want to make the transition from just dating to officially being in a relationship.If you feel like you and your partner are going in a great direction, you may want to take it to the next level.You can see it there on the horizon – the whole “So where’s this going? The dating game has changed dramatically, and while it used to be as simple as a quick conversation along the lines of “OK, so we like each other, let’s make this official”, there is now a list of new stages in a fledgling relationship that can seem to make things more confusing.Everything has become a little ill-defined, and I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve asked yourself these kinds of questions: The early stages of dating should be when you’re having the most fun of all, so don’t let things worry you, because really this is when you should be running through parks holding hands and making slushy PDAs on the tube.
To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.Robert: This is from Molly: “I met my guy on Tinder almost four months ago. I was at his place and my phone buzzed and he said, “Was that a Tinder match? I just laughed and said, “No.” Why would he ask me that? Elizabeth: Well, I don’t believe that a relationship is defined unless you have a conversation. Elizabeth: As much as I understand why she feels like she has a relationship– because they do have one.To me, it seems like we are exclusive basically by default because we spend so much time together. But it’s important to always make sure that you define it. But by the time we got around to officially rubber-stamping the boyfriend/girlfriend titles into our relationship, I already thought we were exclusive. *** Clearly this wasn’t our best, most romantic conversation ever.I still have Tinder and Bumble on my phone but hardly ever check them because I’ve been busy with him. What he’s saying with that question about her phone is, “Are you exclusive with me? Then when he says no, then you have that conversation about exclusivity.